Healing Creates Heroes

Understanding Men's Fear of Healing: An Empathetic Perspective

In our rapidly evolving world, the conversation around emotional intelligence, healing, and personal growth is becoming increasingly vital. Yet, many men find themselves caught in a complex web of fear and resistance when it comes to these transformative processes. This article aims to explore the reasons behind this fear and how it hampers their emotional intelligence and the healing of their inner child.

The Weight of Societal Expectations

From a young age, many boys are taught to embody traditional notions of masculinity—strength, stoicism, and self-reliance. These societal expectations can create a framework where emotions are often seen as a weakness. When faced with the prospect of healing or confronting their inner struggles, many men may feel they are betraying these ingrained ideals. The fear of being perceived as vulnerable can stifle their willingness to engage in self-reflection and emotional growth.

The Fear of Vulnerability

Vulnerability is a cornerstone of emotional intelligence and healing, yet it is often associated with weakness in many cultural contexts. For men, opening up about their feelings or past traumas can be daunting. The fear of judgment, ridicule, or rejection can lead to an internalized belief that expressing emotions is inherently dangerous. This emotional suppression not only hinders personal growth but also perpetuates a cycle of unresolved pain that can affect relationships and overall well-being.

The Inner Child: A Complicated Relationship

The concept of the inner child represents the part of us that holds our childhood experiences, emotions, and wounds. For many men, confronting their inner child can evoke deep-seated fears and anxieties. Childhood experiences often include trauma, neglect, or unmet emotional needs. Facing these aspects can be incredibly painful, leading to resistance. The fear of reopening old wounds can overshadow the potential for healing, making the idea of growth feel more threatening than liberating.

The Impact of Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EI) is essential for fostering healthy relationships, navigating life's challenges, and achieving personal growth. However, the fear of healing and change can significantly limit a man's EI. When emotions are suppressed, the ability to empathize, communicate effectively, and connect with others is compromised. This not only impacts personal relationships but also hinders professional success and overall life satisfaction

Breaking the Cycle: Embracing Healing

Acknowledging the fear surrounding healing is the first step toward breaking the cycle. Men can benefit from creating safe spaces to explore their emotions without judgment. Therapy, support groups, or even conversations with trusted friends can provide a supportive environment for vulnerability. Understanding that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness, can empower men to take the necessary steps toward healing.

#### Encouraging Emotional Expression

Promoting emotional expression among men is crucial for fostering emotional intelligence. Encouraging open dialogues about feelings, experiences, and vulnerabilities can help dismantle the stigma surrounding emotional exploration. Celebrating men who embody emotional intelligence and vulnerability can shift societal perceptions and create a culture where healing is embraced rather than feared.

Conclusion

The journey of healing, growth, and change can be daunting for many men, often hindered by societal expectations, fear of vulnerability, and a complicated relationship with their inner child. However, by recognizing and addressing these fears, men can embark on a transformative path toward greater emotional intelligence and fulfillment. Embracing vulnerability, fostering open conversations, and seeking support are vital steps in healing the wounds of the past and nurturing a healthier, more resilient future. The path may be challenging, but the rewards of emotional growth and healing are immeasurable. Healing creates heroes.

Secrets About All Men

Did you know that all men are insecure?

Do you hide your insecurities so well that you actually believe they don’t exist?

That’s doing a disservice to you and to all females.

We want men who are authentic. If you are too afraid to be authentic I suggest you start working with someone to break that habit.

Did you know men also lie in order to protect this habit? They justify lying by disguising it with their ego.

He plays the “I’m a good guy” persona and I wouldn’t want to hurt her so I just didn’t tell her or I told a white lie.

It’s his own ego that' he’s protecting, not her. She wants the truth.

What ends up happening is that men only grow older and their mask grows thicker but they aren’t maturing. Without developing emotional intelligence they live as unhealed boys in mens’ bodies.

Men will even go out with females 20 years younger than them because they don’t have the emotional maturity to date someone their age.

I teach emotional intelligence because that lack of development keeps these habits in place, and is destroying our world.

You learned these habits. You weren’t told that balancing emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing were essential.

Men spend so much time in their heads, not acting on their emotional guidance, that their emotions play out as anxiety and insecurity.

They there’s narcissist’s who don’t think they need to improve. They think they are perfect just as they are. Never touching their massive insecurities but over accentuating their need for control, domination and predictability.

No room for trust prohibits the heart from taking action.

This may be why I appreciate a submissive man. It doesn’t mean he’s not an alpha, he’s just able to humble himself. He’s able to play.

Men are not meant to lead in my opinion. Our Spirit is meant to lead, regardless of our gender.

As for sex, 70% of females fake orgasms. 9 out of 10 marriages after a certain point end up sexless.

We live in a a world that normalizes war, poverty, crime and putting men in jail without self-actualization training and education.

Money has been given more value than human life.

That reality was created by patriarchal rule. I’m erecting the economy of care and I invite all who want the same to join me.

Emotional intelligence would change everything that has come before because I do not not hear and see enough men saying NO to injustices that continue to perpetuate the harming of people and our planet.

Are you as a man too busy safeguarding your ego to allow your heart the permission to speak?

The mind has one goal and it’s to be right. It seeks validation outside of itself. It is weak and able to be controlled. Unlike the heart.

The heart is an innocence that’s fierce. It’s authentic and sees no limitation.

If you aren’t living in the heart, you are not fierce. You are not authentic.

You’ve either become silent or a master manipulator. Allowing yourself to tell lies and to protect your insecurities.

Living inauthenticity and out of alignment with the guidance of the heart has to stop!

Love is tough. Love is strong.

I speak on the Law of Care. It requires heart first, which is care, then mind which is knowledge, and then GUT which is action!

If you are living out of alignment, inauthentic, replicating like technology and not utilizing the power of your heart – then you need to know a new way. Erect the law of care in your life and shift your reality, as well as, our collective reality.

I am ushering in a new reality based in Care. If you want to be a part of my gang – I want your heart on board.

Go to my website www.thecommmandress.com and hit the SUBMIT tab, read the information I request, and take advantage of the 10-15 call with me. Don’t be stupid and not include your number. Keep an eye out for commandress @mainmail.us email but go through my site.

Share this with everyone you know who is ready to pivot an entirely new direction and we’ll do this together.

Our hearts want love, beauty, wander, play, peace and joy. This and clean: air, water, food and energy are our birthrights.

We have to claim our space of grace. I’m doing exactly that and I want to be in good company if this calls to you.

I promise to leave this world a better place than it was when I arrived.

My authenticity and yours will make all the difference.

Stand with my fierce love and I will stand with yours.

Passionately & Authentically Yours,

The Commandress

p.s. My first sensory event will be digitally on October 31st. It will either be through Discord: https://discord.gg/TpGv5Drt or zoom. It will be a love offering of $13-$31 and preferably sent by mail so you can write me a nice note and we’ll be celebrating my bday together. I can send you my PO. Box if this doesn’t intimidate you. It would fill my heart with joy to receive your note. I love hand written cards/notes.

one of the Biggest Mistakes Men make regarding Women

One of the biggest mistakes men often make regarding women is assuming they are all the same or can be understood through generalizations. Putting them into a box.

Here are some common pitfalls:

Stereotyping: Assuming all women think, feel, or behave in a certain way based on stereotypes or limited personal experiences.

Ignoring Individuality: Failing to recognize that each woman is a unique individual with her own preferences, values and personality traits.

Lack of Communication: Assuming they understand what women want or need without actually asking or communicating effectively. This is most common and leads to misunderstandings and unmet expectations.

Overgeneralizing: Making broad statements about women’s behavior or emotions without considering individual differences or context of specific situations. And doing this to explain himself through generalization.

Disregarding Consent and Boundaries: Not respecting boundaries whether physical, emotional or social and assuming a woman’s actions or attire imply consent or interest.

Objectification: Viewing women primarily as objects of sexual desire or as fulfilling specific roles, rather than as a whole person with diverse aspirations and complexities.

Misinterpreting Signals: Misreading or misinterpreting social cures or signals from women, leading to misunderstandings or discomfort.

Lack of Empathy: Failing to empathize with women’s experiences, perspectives, and challenges, particularly those relate to gender inequality or societal pressures.

To avoid these mistakes, it’s important for men to approach interactions with women with empathy, respect and a genuine interest in understanding each person as an individual. Effective communication active listening, and a willingness to learn and adapt are crucial in fostering healthy and respectful relationship with women.

I talk to men in order to help guide them into their authenticity in unique ways that are invidivual to them. Contact me at commandress@mainmail.us if you would like to schedule a free ten minute discovery call. Include 2-3 sentences about yourself including your age, where you live and the work you do. Don’t forget your phone number and two times you are available to receive a call.

Thank you for choosing to grow! We need you.

Warmly,
Commandress